Why Fat Fetishists and Fat Activists Never End Up In Bed Together

molly-ren:

Sometimes people with a “fat fetish” are considered less problematic than feederists, even though it seems like the definitions should have at least some overlap. This has lead to pure facepalm moments in otherwise intelligent commentary, such as during The Fatcast’s two-part podcast on love, sex, and dating, titled Love and Other Indoor Sports. During both portions of the podcast, the hosts talk positively about being attracted specifically to fat, discuss the unfounded fears people often have of fetishists, and then turn around and exclude feederists from that category. The longest discussion of fat, preferences, and fetish comes around the 25 minute mark in part 2. The specific mention of feederism is around minute 34.

Hi Molly! I wish I hadn’t been so distracted with getting to the airport on Sunday so I could’ve been more focused in listening to you about this. I really appreciate your commitment to having this conversation, even though I’m sure it’s continually a challenge to fight through all the shitty assumptions people have.

I do want to clarify my feelings on this though—-I’d never argue that a feeder relationship can’t take place in a loving and respectful way. I’ve no doubt it’s entirely possible, and even common. I just had not personally met anyone who had a positive experience with it (until I met you!) and my own knowledge of feederism is EXTREMELY limited. Like, I probably know more about quantum mechanics than I do feederism.

Finally, it might go without saying, but I ferociously believe that all consenting adults are entitled to make their own private decisions, and those decisions should be respected, no matter how unfamiliar or strange to an outsider. End of.

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    Also, the end of Lesley’s comment here — I don’t have to like/be interested in/enjoy your kink/interest/relationship in...
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    wish I hadn’t been...Sunday so I could’ve been more focused in listening
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    This is very interesting in the context of how little most people understand about fetishes in general. Most public...
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    More intelligent shit to consider from the wonderful molly-ren.
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    I originally expected to get more negative responses to what I wrote. Instead, I’m getting either crickets or thoughtful...
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    er… FAs, between preference...fetish, particularly in reference
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