July 2011
2 posts
Anonymous asked: Why did you move beluga best friend from tumblr? I don't think this is a bad thing, just really curious about why the change happened. Thanks.
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http://www.belugabestfriend.com/ →
Your Beluga Best Friend is swimming in a new part of the internet. The beluga will continue to respond to the Tumblr question backlog, but future queries should be directed to ask@belugabestfriend.com.
June 2011
37 posts
Two Whole Cakes » Shepard ain't white: Playing... →
missmokushiroku:
wildunicornherd:
Via Geek Feminism, Lesley Kinzel writes about playing Mass Effect 2 with a Shepard who is a woman of colour.
In almost any other storytelling medium, my Shepard’s ladyness and brownness would be critical plot points. Her superiors would belittle her and dismiss her because of these characteristics, and Shepard’s ultimate success would be a tale of strength...
Congratulations to the White House and the House... →
wilwheaton:
Bush will not be investigated for lying us into war, authorizing torture, and spying on American citizens; but Anthony Weiner will resign.
Cheney will not be investigated for lying us into war, authorizing torture, and spying on American citizens; but Anthony Weiner will resign.
Rumsfeld will not be investigated for lying us into war and authorizing torture; but Anthony Weiner...
Since apparently it is time for my periodic...
meloukhia:
Reprinting something that someone else has written, in whole or in substantive part, without permission, is copyright infringement. It is also not cool.
Yes, even if you just really liked it and wanted to share.
Yes, even if you add attribution.
Yes, even if it is for a good cause.
Yes, even if it is ‘just’ a blog.
If you like something so much that you want to distribute it,...
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Some words at the close of the evening.
Wherever I’ve been dismissive, I apologize, ‘twas not my intent, and though my intent is meaningless when compared to the measurable effects of what I’ve said, I do want folks to know I continue to be engaged in and invigorated by such challenging arguments and ideas.
If I have disappointed anyone, then I am cheered and relieved, because I never want y’all to hold me up on...
culturalmarxist asked: "Whether I personally have a disability is not something I am required to publicly disclose in order to have a perspective. I mean, really? Is that a precedent you want to set?"
"Well, I use paki as a term of endearment! Just because I'm white doesn't mean I don't get to have a perspective on it."
Not that I think you're on that...
"Well, I use paki as a term of endearment! Just because I'm white doesn't mean I don't get to have a perspective on it."
Not that I think you're on that...
allies-person said: I agree that not using the word “stupid” is not going to do a whole lot to actually fight ableism. But neither is defending use of the word, which you seem rather invested in. Why?
Have I defended it? It’s not my nature to get all, “I should be allowed to use ‘stupid’ because [justification].” Fact, is I have yet to come to a conclusion on the...
Perpetually Myself: It's not enough to call out... →
allies-person:
I’ve long been dissatisfied by the ways in which the vast majority of the so-called “social justice blogosphere” handles ableist language. (I’m not talking about people on Tumblr so much as the older, more traditional blogs, BTW.) I’ve been around—lurking, mostly—long enough to remember a time…
I could have written this, basically. Especially the bit about the call-out as...
youarenotyou-deactivated2012022 asked: "However, I’m still inclined to argue that “stupid” isn’t the problem, and that getting people not to use the word doesn’t fix a damn thing in the broader context you cite."
Do you personally have a disability? Because if this word isn't used to marginalize you, then you really don't have any place in deciding whether it's oppressive or...
Do you personally have a disability? Because if this word isn't used to marginalize you, then you really don't have any place in deciding whether it's oppressive or...
youarenotyou-deactivated2012022 asked: Ableism is NOT just limited to mental illness. Ableism is oppression of any person w/ a disability. It's ableist to call someone stupid because it's associating lower intelligence with something bad.
Even if intelligence is a social construct, it still holds a ton of weight. It’s still used as a signifier of value, and a tool of oppression toward all sorts of...
Even if intelligence is a social construct, it still holds a ton of weight. It’s still used as a signifier of value, and a tool of oppression toward all sorts of...
Anonymous asked: knowledge =/= IQ.
of course people with low IQ can learn and shizz.
but they still have low IQ
and 'stupid' is still ableist and offensive.
of course people with low IQ can learn and shizz.
but they still have low IQ
and 'stupid' is still ableist and offensive.
amianym asked: I think it's for exactly the reasons you expressed in your last answer that "stupid" is ableist - it's because "stupid" or "smart" are used to describe someone's inherent level of ability across the board, and by extension, their *value,* that intelligence is an oppressive concept. People called "smart" have their difficulties ignored and...
lifeseams asked: Anthropologist Says: Quantitative measures of "intelligence", like IQ, are absolutely, 100% culturally dependent; your score varies not based on any objective measure, but on your relationship to the culture that wrote the particular test you are taking. Essentially, they are meaningless except as an indicator of how well you fit into your culture's definition of intelligent, and...
frosted-sugar-dicks asked: http://whatswiththebirds.tumblr.com/post/6149807799
Make a rational and well worded argument, get shit for being ableist.
Make a rational and well worded argument, get shit for being ableist.
gottagetbacktohogwarrrtss-deact asked: I'm the one who told you stupid is ableist. It's been connected to developmentally disabled people for a loooooooong time. Personally, my mom always called me stupid for not being able to fold clothes right. I used to repeat questions automatically. All of my autistic traits have always gotten me called stupid and i'm not the only autistic one with these experiences. Typically...
bizarity-kay asked: I wanted to reply to your latest post, but couldn't figure out how without reblogging (I'm new at tumblr too). Anyway, I recently saw someone make the argument that using "stupid" as a negative is judging people based on their intelligence, which isn't something they can help. A willful lack of knowledge is one thing, but being born with a lower IQ is another. I don't...
Anonymous asked: Honestly I've never really understood why 'stupid' is ableist, considering I just thought it meant somebody who was less intelligent or slightly foolish or something, not somebody with a mental illness (or even that they have a mental disability). I've never read any definitions of 'stupid' as to it being related to mental illness either, wtf.
therotund:
theoryofgravity replied to your post: http://therotund.tumblr.com/post/6077224316/jujerbeanz-therotund-karnythia yes but you’re fat because you have enough to eat largely at the expense of the people that suffer starvation. The imagery used is valid .
I have actually seen Marianne snatch food from the mouths of starving people and stuff it into her own maw, all the while cackling...
Anonymous asked: Which part of that post was the abelist part? If it's just the use of the word stupid, how does that relate to mentally ill people? I wouldn't connect the two on my own.
knitmeapony asked: Could you please put that flashing GIF under a cut-tag or something? That's migraine triggering for me, and possibly seizure triggering for other folks.
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Craftastrophies: SPIRIT ANIMAL →
garconniere:
REAL QUICK short and simple to the point because this has come up more times than i can count and lots of people have asked me what i think of it (this is not about any one person in particular or anything like that).
yes, i am really uncomfortable with how often people say…
I just used this recently and am trying to be better about it. Excellent post.
gabifresh-deactivated20110621-d asked: Re: your last Beluga Question
You don't have to publish this! I know I've said it to you before and I know you've heard it a million times over from other people, but I appreciate you so much! I don't always agree with your opinions, and I'm sure you don't always agree with mine, but the fact that you're always level-headed and assume the best intentions...
You don't have to publish this! I know I've said it to you before and I know you've heard it a million times over from other people, but I appreciate you so much! I don't always agree with your opinions, and I'm sure you don't always agree with mine, but the fact that you're always level-headed and assume the best intentions...
Stupid Tumblr questions, the latest in a series.
whatswiththebirds:
theoryofgravity:
This is an etiquette question.
When someone leaves something in your ask box and says “you don’t have to publish this”, does that mean PLEASE DON’T publish it? Or publish if you want?
This is happening to me a lot and I don’t know if there’s a code here I don’t understand! I am probably overthinking it.
Thank you, smart Tumblr people. xo
hey feminism....
theresgoingtobetrouble asked: I started a tumblr just to ask you where you got the OUTSTANDING purple coat in this entry: http://theoryofgravity.tumblr.com/post/4258064066/otaku-sex-beast-why-would-you-mix-those-colors
It is awesome and I love it and I must have one just like it.
Also, you're kind of my hero.and I love your blog so, so much.
It is awesome and I love it and I must have one just like it.
Also, you're kind of my hero.and I love your blog so, so much.
Stupid Tumblr questions, the latest in a series.
This is an etiquette question.
When someone leaves something in your ask box and says “you don’t have to publish this”, does that mean PLEASE DON’T publish it? Or publish if you want?
This is happening to me a lot and I don’t know if there’s a code here I don’t understand! I am probably overthinking it.
Thank you, smart Tumblr people. xo
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May 2011
78 posts
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Anonymous asked: You and your blog are an important reason why I love myself despite all the negative messages against me. Thank you so much!
sinnumero asked: Thanks so much for everything you do, always.
soquitenewathing asked: Please resurrect the Museum of Fat Love! I loved it so ):
lilablackbird asked: I don't have a question (yet). I just want to tell you how much I love this blog! I'm a regular reader of Two Whole Cakes, and I'm really glad you're on my Tumblr dash. I really like the combination of gracious loving advice and belugas. Who wouldn't want kind advice from a beluga?
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driftinggentlybacktonormal asked: Hi. I don't actually have a question, just wanted to tell you that Your Beluga Best Friend always makes my day! :) Belugas are so under-appreciated.